Letting go of, THE WHY
Many people fall into an abyss of questions when things don’t work out as planned…
Why did they give up on us?
Why did they do that to me?
Why did they hurt me?
Why did they lie?
Why couldn’t they try harder?
Why couldn’t we just make it work?
Why? Why? Why?
IT DOESN’T MATTER WHY!
While it is important to understand how your actions could have affected your relationship it is NECESSARY to accept that you may never understand why anyone else does what they do.
There are some questions in life that you will never receive the answers to. This is especially true when it involves another person and their thoughts, feelings, and actions because they may not even know themselves.
So, if there is anything that YOU should understand it is this, knowing “the why” doesn’t change anything and asking “why” only occupies your mind, drains you of your energy, and keeps you living in the past (because your thoughts are on repeat, playing previous moments over & over again while trying to dissect them to understand if there was something you missed). The longer you hold on to this, the longer you will be stuck in that moment instead of allowing yourself to carry on so you can pursue what you seek.
WHAT MATTERS IS YOUR NOW.
Focus your energy on LIVING YOUR PRESENT and creating the future you want.
Your past cannot be changed, but your future is in your hands and you can create the life you imagine.
Accept that things didn’t work out
Release all pain. Tell yourself over & over again that each day it will hurt less and every new day tell yourself that you are getting better. Time heals all wounds. Eventually, you will wake up and enough time will have passed that it will feel like a distant memory.
Allow yourself forgiveness for the things you did wrong. We all make mistakes. Now, all you can do is learn from them.
Forgive them (so you can have peace)
Make a list of what you want and don’t want in your next relationship
Commit to the idea that no matter who is in your life, you will be well on your own. The better you are as an individual the better of a partner you will attract.
The sooner you heal, the sooner the universe will see that you are ready for the better things it has waiting for you.
Sending love & light,
Linny
